I Am The Decisive Element:
I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration; I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.
-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
I love the last sentence. I often think about this concept…do you treat people as they act or what you perceive they can be? Can we set up scenarios where this is exploited? When I say exploited, what I mean is that, can we push people to recognize that they are not reaching their capacity by putting them in a position that shows them how they are currently acting is not allowing them to be successful? Then, one can ask, who am I to judge what their ultimate capacity is?
When you work with people, you may eventually come to the realization that what you say or don’t say and what you do or don’t do has a tremendous impact on others. It initially feels very invading; that no matter how you behave, it will affect someone. That’s what keeps me thinking 24/7.
However, for every 1 person you positively influence you piss off 2, you confuse 4 and you frustrate another 3.
1 in 10.
Hell, it might even be 1 in 20.
But, to create change someone has to be the decisive element.
Are you ready?